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A F T E R L I F E M E S S A G E S - 2 0 1 1
STELLA
"Everything Changes for the Better!"
The recent growth in diaries and journals has offered many people incredible insights into their own minds, and what motivates or deflates them.
In my own case, I kept a private journal that described not only my days, but my thoughts and reactions to them. I found I objectified people into cubbyholes of blame or envy, eventually recognizing for myself my own patterns of self-defeating reactions to adversity.
Once I saw and accepted that life was my own making, I only had to decide my own responses: positive or negative. Its far better that you learn earlier than later that when you accept responsibility for your own reactions, everything changes for the better!
01/02/11
STAN R.
"They Exuded Confidence!"
Two star generals were often in my home when I grew up because my father was a high ranking officer, as well. Over time I noticed something particular to these leaders: when they addressed someone their eyes remained exceptionally focused. Never wandering. Never searching for words. It was obvious they commanded their own minds. Plain and simple, they exuded confidence.
I benefited well by their example over the years by taking several small firms to large partnerships because of the confidence and trust people felt in me personally and professionally.
Learn to look people squarely in the eyes without feeling awkward. Youll avoid misunderstandings, gain more insight into solutions, and become a leader wherever you go in life.
01/09/11
JAMES
"Now Go Conquer Your World!"
As I give my best insight to those reading this (in hopes that you live a grand and prosperous life), I feel it is my duty to let you know youre the one who will make or break your opportunities ahead.
The world is at your feet. You just have to really want something SO much that you can hardly think about NOT doing it as an alternative.
Apply yourself to your dream by letting your thoughts go there with fresh feelings each day knowing that it will come to pass when you exert yourself routinely with the passion you have for it. Now go conquer your world!
01/16/11
MECHA
"A Doorway to More Love!"
A ghost of each of us returns to make amends with our sorrows if we battle our fears and feelings too long after we die. But if we come to terms that death is but a doorway to more love, we get to give back to our loved ones. Thats when Love, Itself, invites us to become a guide or friend to those we love on your side.
I felt timid to die, but when I heard my loved ones say as I was dying that I was a great woman, it made me rethink my past because they called to me with such overflowing hearts! With that confidence I have returned often to offer my hand of hope. No sorrow. No pity. Only gratitude and love!
01/23/11
CAL
"My Most Rewarding Achievement!"
Achievements meant many things to me when I was on your side. Sure, there were job accomplishments with raises that followed, or athletic fetes, but in truth nothing meant as much to me (looking back) as my own will to live.
Forces are around us all the time to give up and succumb to whats easiest, or go away. But instead of dying when I was gravely ill, I kept my focus on leaving behind anything that felt like sorrow while committing myself to living with purpose.
Its a gift to be born. But then its up to you to give back to yourself the incentives to push through all adversities with the knowledge that you have more living to do. As accomplishments go, that was my most rewarding achievement!
01/30/11
DANIEL
"So Speak Up!"
The day I died I regretted only that I didnt speak up often enough in life. There were so many times I could have added something to a conversation, but instead kept it to myself thinking it wouldnt matter, anyway.
Nonsense, I now know! Had I spoken up I would have had many more opportunities to be in better control of my own life. But because I behaved so passively, I allowed others to chart my lifes course too many times.
Talk out loud with enthusiasm and goodwill, or talk to yourself and be miserable. What you have to say really does matter, so speak up!
02/06/11
DELILAH
"Married by a Certain Time"
The boyfriend I had as a girl was the one I thought I would marry, but didnt. We were only 15 and 16 years old. Back then girls and boys generally dated a long time before getting married, unlike how fast things move along these days. What happened to us was average to so many: we grew apart. But what I see now from this side is that we werent meant to be together.
Not everyone believes there is one person meant for them. But there is. So what happens that keeps people from meeting and marrying their other half? Mostly its the decision (intent) to be married by a certain time. It puts a lot of pressure on dating, as well as getting to know the other person; to discover if they are your true match in all the important ways.
There is a plan through God that develops a time and place for each of you to meet. It may or may not be in a romantic setting, but if its meant to be, your hearts will sense the joy in meeting your other half!
02/13/11
LINDY
"God's Hints & Obvious Clues"
A lot of people pray for answers yet arent really in the right state to hear or feel Gods clues back. I was one of those people. Funny looking back, because I see that the clues were there all along, but I was so busy trying to figure things out I couldnt see the forest for the trees. I obscured the obvious!
Trust me (when I complain), I was obtuse. But in general terms I was just like most everyone else, which is why I want to share my best wisdom: Get your palms warmed up each time you want Gods help. Its the finishing touch to letting Gods hints and obvious clues come through.
Its funny how often we naturally rub our hands together before tackling something new. Now, just make it a regular habit. Its a bright idea that will yield bright results!
02/20/11
ALF
"A Goal for Every Man and Woman"
A budding flower will not mature faster than nature intends without a gardener playing God: force-feeding it an overabundance of nutrients, water, and most of all light. In such cases, a flower takes off at full speed only to reduce its days by half because its growth period was too concentrated.
When a person feels the need to expand their consciousness too quickly (through drugs or other altering methods) their minds desire to work in methods of peaceful co-existence becomes not only disrupted, it can be broken or destroyed.
To be at peace with ones own mind is an elective decision, but one I feel strongly about from this side. Peaceful coexistence between the mind and body should be a goal for every man and woman.
Trust me, become at peace by s-l-o-w-i-n-g everything down with the mindful purpose of a living a long, healthy and fruitful life.
02/27/11
TAMMY
"Doing Anything You Put Your Mind to!
When people saw me as a child it was obvious they were thinking, poor little thing, her birth defect looks so bad. But you know, it wasnt so bad. While it wasnt easy getting around, I came through it miles ahead of most able-bodied people who never found out what they were truly capable of doing.
Thats why in hindsight I see my disability as a blessing. Because I had to work hard at nearly everything I did as a kid, working hard later in life seemed simple.
Take it from a friend in spirit, youre capable of doing anything you put your mind to!
03/06/11
CARY
"No Pressure Living!"
The first thing that comes to mind for me about living a great life is to learn to do what needs to be done first, and then let the rest come.
In my younger years I used to procrastinate, thinking its better to get the smaller jobs out of the way before tackling a big one. Well, I didnt get anything major done since there was always a lot of small things to keep me busy.
In my older (wiser) years I learned the value of making a list and sticking to it. I promised myself I would complete one project before starting another - large or small - which changed everything. No longer did I have a home filled with half-completed projects.
Besides getting things finally done, they were done in a timely way. Best of all, over the years I felt better and better about myself because I finally stopped feeling guilty about what wasnt getting done. 'No pressure living' I call it now. Good to know you might benefit by it, too!
03/13/11
CINDY
For the Brilliant Only!
At eleven I was an inquisitive child, but also minded my manners until, that is, one day when I was at my aunt and uncles and curiosity got the better of me. On their dresser stand was a box that read (in my uncles handwriting), For the Brilliant Only. When I opened it I found old coins outdated by almost a hundred years.
Uncles are sweet, but mine was the sweetest. Knowing I had opened the box he asked what value I thought was inside. Quickly he told me what one coin was worth, and then told me how many were inside. In amazement I gave him the sum of its worth in just seconds. Taking me up in his arms he exclaimed, My girl, youre exactly correct!
Calculating what he believed the coins would be worth in about seven years, he then announced to my aunt, Our Cindys going to college. Our treat! How lucky was I? When I graduated from university I bought back one of those coins and put it in an envelope with a card that told them they were worth a million of these!
The wisdom I hope you take from this is that you never know how your hard work earlier in life (like learning otherwise boring multiplication tables!) can increase your lifes quality later. And no, its never too lateno matter what your age.
I enjoyed sharing this and hope to reach you again soon.
3/20/11
TYLER
Cleaning Out a Crowded Closet
Live a life that keeps you honest with you. If youve done things you knew werent right, dont try to kid anyone especially yourself by insisting it was somehow someone elses fault. Own it. It was your choice and your doing.
When you do what you need to do between you and God, you leave the past behind once and for all. Its like cleaning out a crowded closet filled with stuff that was never meant to be hauled from house to house. Dig in. Unload your excess stuff by facing the truth. Without a doubt you will make room for so much more thats truly meaningful.
03/27/11
DINAH
Reunite With Our Pets
I decided to come through because I think we need more appreciation for the pets we have throughout our lives. Little do we know how deep our hearts sew seeds of love into our furry friends until we die. Thats when our hearts nearly burst as they come back into our arms!
I dont know why some people think we dont reunite with our pets after we die. Its just plain silly. They have hearts (just like us) and God made them (just like us) to keep love alivebecause nothing else matters!
04/03/11
ERROL
Really Focus on It!
When we do work on this side (where I am in the afterlife), first we think about what it is we want to accomplish. We see it in our minds eye and then let it settle into a realistic picture. Once we focus on that picture really focus on it - the way to accomplish it becomes amazingly easy.
While you may think things just magically appear over here because we desire them, they dont. We still engage in the creative process feeling the important sense of joy and accomplishment when we complete things for ourselves.
By making this your process as well, your life will make more and more sense vs. trying to figure everything out ahead of time. Spend time visualizing the end product, and the how to will be uncovered. God gave you intuitive skills. Use them!
04/10/11
KYLE
They Lifted My Spirits
Between you and me, the majority of parents over here cross over knowing their adult kids are ill-equipped to handle their own futures because even as they lay dying their kids are blaming one another for things long since passed.
To those who prayed, hummed and even sang songs as I lay dying I am forever grateful. They lifted my spirits which, ultimately, was exactly what I needed to go home in peace. Dont overlook the miracles of quality caregivers. They bring us home without regret.
04/17/11
SUSAN
Our Best and Brightest!
Most school teachers know what they need to know to teach certain subjects (say mathematics), but may not know much about the very act and essence of learning.
While learning is complex, it can become genuinely easy when you get kids hearts racing. It triples their learning capacity, and they retain the information most of their lives.
To see teachers with huge smiles and wishful enthusiasm calling on eager students, is to witness scholars in the highest. They are our best and brightest teaching our best and brightest!
Become a teacher if you believe you can help young people get over the malaise of classroom boredom. Its mind-numbing and can be remedied. You may just be the one to help make the miracle happen!
04/24/11
LESLIE
What it Takes to Wake You Up
When I was on your side my son died from an overdose. One day he was 18, the next day he wasnt alive. Regardless, he was my son. In truth, however, I mourned his loss long before his death. Because as any parent of an addict will tell you, the child you knew is no longer there.
Looking back now, I wish I would have taken more time to be with him as he was growing up, even if just for errands or day outings. Too often kids insist theyd rather be with their friends, but deep inside what theyre really hungry for, often desperate for, is your time and attention. Nothing about achievements or chores; just shared times and smiles.
Sometimes it takes all of us kids and parents alike to realize how much we really do want to be together. Dont let death be what it takes to wake you up.
05/01/11
GINKA
A Bright Outlook
Going to school for the first time is exciting when youre a kid. Teachers smile, parents beam, you get new clothes and carry your lunchall new!
I remember my mother giving me her hand and confidently walking me into class for the first time not so long ago (it feels like from this side). Because I felt her pride and enthusiasm, I felt confident, too.
On this Mothers Day I want to give thanks to all those mothers who delivered their children to new horizons with a bright outlook. God smiles on mothers everywhere. Share your smiles with them, too!
05/08/11
TODD
Lucky Us!
The best work I started doing as an employee was when I started taking others into consideration. What I mean by that is I stopped seeing others as just fellow employees, but as people with lives that meant as much to them as mine did to me.
In time I became a supervisor. At first I felt overwhelmed with the responsibility, but as the weeks passed I saw how much they wanted to do well by me because they knew I wanted to do well by them. It was an equal and respectful partnership.
Those I worked with were some the finest human beings I could ever have hoped to get to know. From this side I have the good fortune to know that some of them felt that same way about me, too. Lucky us!
05/15/11
CHLOE
Forever Boasting
A friend of mine was forever boasting about this or that, rarely taking into consideration my simple life in comparison.
Because I didnt like (and still dont like) confrontation, I asked what mattered most to her in life. Surprised by the question, she declared it was her friends and family. Funny enough, from then on our friendship only grew deeper.
While you may think her bragging curbed because I helped her to see the light about what really mattered in life, I dont. I think she just needed a friend who cared enough to show deep interest in her.
Give someone you care about the chance to tell you what matters most to them in life, and you receive a heart-felt friend for life!
05/22/11
JEREMY
You're All So Happy!
Bakers dozen. It means thirteen. Its a phrase we used to describe our family. From the oldest to the youngest, we all had red hair and freckles. Most of all, we loved to play pranks on one another. Such fun I cant even begin to describe it!
Our familys picture wasnt anything we thought particularly special or unusual until we got older and kept hearing things like, youre all so happy. Everyones always smiling.
No joke (!!), take time as a family to play games, put on skits, and tell jokes. Do whatever it takes to get the household laughing. I promise when youre old, the stories your family will recount will revitalize everyone over and over again. What legacy!
05/29/11
OLIVE
With a Smile on Your Face
Carefully I would drive my car to work each morning watchful not to crush little creatures in the road. Sometimes I would even take side-roads if I knew their young were about. I wanted to protect my corner of the world, and felt sure it pleased God.
The truth is if you do something with a smile on your face, God is pleased. But if you feel its your obligation to share Gods burdens, God is not so pleased. I know this now because God shared His heart with mine in The Light. Thats when I felt the joy for life God wants each of us to live in.
06/05/11
DARREN
I Liked That!
I used to argue a lot until age 47. Thats when I nearly died from a heart attack. Through aftercare counseling I came to grips that arguing was about a battle I had going on inside of me. I just had to figure out what that battle was about.
In time I came to realize I didnt like myself much. Turns out my folks didnt like themselves much either, nor the neighbors, nor even us kids for that matter. (Seems being disagreeable was a way of life for them.)
Desperate not to repeat another heart attack, I decided to extend myself to a local charity. Soon folks began saying I was a real dependable fellow. Many seemed sincerely happy to see me. I liked that! I liked me!
06/12/11
JOE
Thanking You for Being Their Dad
Once I died I saw how enormous our responsibilities are as parents. While I knew parenting was a life changing experience, I didnt realize the impact of every decision I made, and the encouragement of every smile I gave.
Fortunately I felt parenting was a wonderful thing, so when I died I felt in my heart the outcome of the words I had said and the feelings they evoked in my kids with a gladness and a gratitude that still uplifts me.
Unfortunately there are those who come across not in that boat at all. They criticized or belittled their kids, or worse ignored them entirely. For them it was a lonely existence. No bright light. No homecoming filled with joy. They had lots and lots of work to do to accept their own lack of behaving responsibly or with love.
Its true you reap what you sow. Nothing will ever be greater than your children looking you deep in the eyes thanking you for being their dad.
06/19/11
HUGH
When Someone Keeps Crossing Your Mind
Like so many years before, my pals and I met up to go hunting in the early winter woods. This time, though, I lost on my way driving out and got stuck as thick snow quickly disguised everything.
Once I realized I might not survive the night (my old trucks heater was shot), I put out a sort of distress call to Arnold, my best friend, who had also been on the trip. Over and over in my thoughts I kept repeating, Arnold, Im lost. Come find me.
Before the sun came up Arnold arrived with help. To my surprise he said he kept hearing me in his thoughts all night shouting for help.
Act on your hunches. When someone keeps crossing your mind, check it out. When you have important connections like Arnolds and mine, your hunches will pay off.
06/26/11
AARON
4th of July Barbeques
For years I didnt see my grown kids much. They were either too busy or not particularly interested in doing those things I enjoyed. Finally, I realized one day that was the exact same relationship I had with them when they were small. Try as they would to get me outside to play, I always replied, Not now. Maybe later.
When I got older I missed that we didnt have 4th of July barbeques in the backyard with loud music, horseshoes, and kids splashing in the pool like so many other families. Somehow that seemingly ordinary slice of American life was something precious we didnt share.
Scoop up your kids and stay busy with them. Its what makes a family strong. Share times now and youll share memories forever.
07/03/11
SANDRA
A Life ofSharing and Caring
When you see the entirety of who you are (when you die and come into The Light), you feel embellished by all those things youve chosen if youve chosen to live a life of sharing and caring.
I came home many years ago after a long illness. While I lay dying, I thought about those things I should have done better, but when God lifted me from my body and brought me into The Light I saw and felt those occasions when I treated others like they truly, deeply mattered.
After I died I promised myself I would come back if given the chance to pass on a word or two of encouragement to those who need a little assistance in how to live without regret: be kind and gentle to yourself as well as others.
07/10/11
THERESA
Lean on One Another
People want to talk about marriage, it seems, much of the time. At least it was that way for me when I was young. Who are you dating now? they would ask. Is he nice? Do you think youll get married? So much enthusiasm, I thought, but not much freedom. What if I never want to get married? (That would have caused some conversation!)
After years of light dating, I surprised myself by wanting to marry my best friend. By then we certainly knew each others strengths and weaknesses, yet neither of us could picture our lives apart.
In time we married. Together we conquered lifes happiest and most difficult times. Unlike so many other couples who only half-heartedly tolerated one anothers unique ways, we chose to lean on one another, never blaming or refusing affection when times got challenging.
Enjoy your lifeit goes by fast! Just be sure that when you choose your life partner, you choose the one you like the most!
07/17/11
ALLEN
I Needed Help!
Its been a long time since I was on your side. Still, I can recall how often I worked hard for something but was never quite able pull it all together to make it happen. Ultimately I did not know how to get the ball rolling in the right direction even after many years of good faith effort. In other words, I needed help!
SECRET: While its not well known to those of you on your side, those of us over here know that things would have automatically changed for the better had I taken time each day to say out loud what it was I needed. NEED is a powerful word, and saying what you need out loud is an easy and very effective thing to do. I promise.
Give it a try. You deserve those things youve worked so hard for to finally come true. Please accept this as a gift from a friend in spirit.
07/24/11
REGGIE
One of the Gang!
The friends I had as a youngster turned out to be some of the best friends I had throughout life even though we didnt always live nearby. Its funny now, because when I see it from this side I see why we were in one anothers lives as youngsters, though at the time it just seemed like coincidence.
In those friendships I found myself at my best, because those were the days when I wasnt someones boss or employee. I was just one of the gang. We were all equal in what was possible each day.
Take the time to be a friend to your friends from the past. They are not all that interested in what your life is or isnt about today because of successes or failures. Most of all, they just want to have a run down memory lane with you to regain those laughs you shared back then!
07/31/11
SUSAN T.
Play More Music!
The summer I turned nine we moved to a new city, much larger than where I came from. I wasnt very outgoing so each day passed slowly as I reminisced over my old friends and school. But after September came around my aunt sent me my cousins old violin, adding that it should be kept busylike kids! Within a few short months I joined my schools orchestra making more friends and having more fun than I ever dreamed.
People are funnywe all want a good life - full of fun and laughter - but not everyone takes the time each day to delight themselves. With my violin I did. Play more music! Its what connects us all.
08/07/11
CLARA
Abundance!
Three times in life I tried to give my money away to charities, but each time it seemed my finances outpaced my gift giving. I used to wonder, how am I so lucky?
From this side [the afterlife] I see how financial rewards come to those ready to receive abundance, because money is an important part of the world of abundance. And like an open funnel, abundance is always ready.but it needs to know that YOURE ready.
Those with a generous spirit are ready. So be free and abundant with your smiles, your prayers, and your generous nature. It becomes abundantly clear that youre not only ready to receive, but ready to shareand thats worth everything!
08/14/11
TERRY
Nothing to Worry About!
The reason most of us on this side want to come through is to let people on your side know that there is nothing to worry about regarding their mortality, because when you believe there is more life to be lived, there is!
I know what its like to have doubts about an afterlife. But as my time came closer and closer to passing, I felt something special in my heart calling me - pulling me! - home. Thats when I knew there was more!
On this side we get to see who we really were back then, and spend time improving ourselves so we can act as agents of assistance for people on your side who might need our help.
Its real where we are. Please pass on the good news!
08/21/11
KATIA
It Goes Hand-in-Hand!
Remembering back to my early days is a joy! I had a wonderful childhood, later marrying my high school sweetheart. So many lovely times it made me wonder why I was so fortunate.
I came to realize that my parents outlook toward others was why I had such a great life: they treated everyone with constant consideration and respect.
Growing up with that outlook gave me an easy way with people. I dont mean to boast, but I think I enjoyed life more than anyone I knew because I enjoyed people more than anyone I knew. It goes hand-in-hand!
08/21/11
BERNARD
Attitude of Gratitude!
Sometimes when you work hard you get the rewards, but there are times, I know, when working hard doesnt get you much. I lived during the Great Depression and saw many, many men and women work extremely hard (just to survive) but get little back in return.
By the time I was twelve I had worked many odd jobs. And no matter what line of work I did the rest of my life, or what the economic times were along the way, I noticed that those who came to work with a genuine desire to work hard - and showed they were glad for the work - rose quickly in the ranks yielding many opportunities and rewards.
Im happy to come through because I know hard work really matters, but making your self sick doing it is not the answer. Work hard with an attitude of gratitude and all will come together.
09/04/11
JACK
Get the Truth for Yourself
The best advice I was ever given is something Id like to share: Do not rely on others opinions when youre unsure about something important. Get the truth for yourself, because more often than not others have an outlook that disadvantages you from seeing the bigger picture.
When I was young a friend of mine told me that a mutual friend of ours was a jerk because he hadnt invited us to his outdoor event. What ended up the truth is that the kids who went to the event were the kids of his parents friends. Thats all.
I almost lost a good friend over nonsense. Give yourself the benefit of hearing the truth. Its always worth asking about because nonsense is not how you want your life to feel.
09/11/11
SONJA
Lifted through Laughter and Joy!
Leaving my husband behind was the hardest thing I ever had to do, but when it was my time I had to go. Cancer came and little else could be done in those days to buy time.
Before I died, however, I gave myself one month to have a party unlike anything else. I invited everyone I knew and insisted it be a night of fun and games. No sad toasts, no speeches, and no looking back. Just great laughs!
I died peacefully knowing my husbands parting sorrow was greatly lifted through laughter and joy. It was my hope he be at peace, just as it was his hope I be at peace. What love!
09/18/11
CARIN
It was Practically Theatre!
Winters were cold where I lived, so when we tired of being indoors we told stories. Lots of stories! Because I wasnt a natural at it the way some in my small village were, it took me more time, thought and effort to get a story out.
What I found was how much fun we all had sharing stories, regardless whose story was the most pertinent to whatever the topic was. All we counted on was all how each story was going to be told. After a while I came to nearly act out my stories. It was practically theatre!
How I became a social butterfly after feeling like a social misfit was through story telling. Though it took me a while, I had years of fun engaging people wherever I went with my comedic tales and exaggerated spoofs. No one ever quite knew what was real or made up, but no one cared because we all had fun!
09/25/11
THOMAS
A Valuable Perspective
Young people always seemed busy, and older folks always seemed slow. At least thats what I thought as a teenager. But as I got older I noticed something different. Young people raced to wherever they were goingjust to sit and hang out, while older people got going slower, but stayed busy throughout the day completing what they started.
This is, I think, a valuable perspective because so many people fear getting older means a drop in their quality of life. Untrue! In most instances ones quality of life gets even better with every passing decade. To me thats a worthy trade off!
10/02/11
SHARON
It Will Change Everything!
Given how we all die - without breath left in us -I want to come through because I believe its vitally important to relate breath with life. Most often we think of our brain waves or heart beats as indicators of life, but breath is the primary life line.
On your side weve all taken our breathing for granted, but not over here. We see how depressed or depleted people on your side let go of more and more of themselves by shallower and shallower breaths.
Give yourself the glowing gift of health and vitality by learning to breathe deeply. It will change everything! Ive seen it reverse heart disease and mental illnesses over time, unlike any medication. Its like exercising out of the body old dark diseases, and bringing in the sunlight once again.
10/09/11
CARL J.
One With Nature
I have always thought the best thing about being on your side is watching Nature. In essence, its a song and a dance. Its melody lingers in each of us throughout our days because we know in the deepest regions of our hearts that we are made of the same ingredients: Gods love!
So whether you believe in evolution or creation, its the same. Weve got the same clay the same song that our Creator used to form us as our beginnings.
Perhaps you dont believe in Gods hands shaping our lives, but from this side I can conclusively assure you Gods handprints are in every aspect of our lives. Happy is the human who knows they are home when they are one with Nature.
10/16/11
ROBIN
Just Imagine
The strangest thing happened to me when I died: I didnt slip into a coma or anything like deep sleep first, I just imagined ahead of time that my folks would be there to greet mewhich is exactly what happened. As I drifted in and out of sleep one night, there they were, hand-in-hand, standing beside my bed.
Of course I thought I was hallucinating, but when I heard them coaxing me to them (in my thoughts) I felt my heart accelerate with joy which helped me release. Just like that they took my hands and together we slid like liquid into The Light.
Im glad death came to me like that. It was easy and most of all welcome in the sense that my parents were the ones to come for me. I hope this eases your mind (whoever you are reading this), because I know most people dread passing on, but you dont have to. Its Gods will we come Home together. Just imagine who you want to have come for you. When its your time, they will be there!
11/23/11
GARY M.
Begin Again with Your Family
If you were on my side and saw what I see, youd see millions of people working harder and harder, getting less and less out of life. Truly.
It used to be that a married couple could raise their kids on one income, live in a modest house, own a car, and take a couple weeks of vacation. If they had extra, it went toward sending the kids to college or in a retirement account. Now it seems huge houses and world travel have taken over as the norm of whats expected. No wonder so many people feel defeated before they barely get started.
Begin again with your family. Sit down together and explain that while you all might wish for the extravagances in life its not necessary toward living a great life. Express your enthusiasm for living in balance with a simpler outlook and budget, with more time together as the outcome. I know the kids will be happier. The adults? Thats up to them. But I think if the kids are happier, they should be!
10/30/11
HORACE
The Dinner Table was a Very Lively Place!
Im sure your family knows best what works for them, but my family agreed that when I came home each evening it was nice how we sat quietly together for about a half hour before dinner to read. After that, the dinner table was a very lively place for conversation and catching up!
The reason I think this is important is because we felt a closeness as a family that many others didnt seem to share. We liked each others company whether we were talking or not. Simple as that!
Neither good nor bad days changed our evening ritual. And to this day its satisfying to see the tradition lives on in my grandchildrens homes, as well.
11/06/11
GORDON
From a Child's Point of View
Children on this side offer their wish for an even better life on your side: Take more time each day to be brief. Isnt that wonderful? It makes so much sense from a childs point of view!
If adults took more time to think out what they want to say, and then say it in just a few words, it would make their childrens hearts and minds feel less stressed and confused. Then smile! Leave them with the feeling that things are going to be okay. They will appreciate it with enthusiasm.
11/13/11
LOREN
The Richest Man Alive!
A wonderful way to win friends and influence people is to take the time to ask people about themselves instead of talking about you. Over time this allows quality relationships to grow as people trust your interest in them is authentic.
I worked hard over many decades helping clients meet their business goals, just as they helped me reach mine. But it was by genuinely showing clients how important they were to me as individuals that I became the richest man alive!
11/20/11
DINAH
A Tradition to Donate
Every Thanksgiving weekend my family made it a tradition to donate to charity things we had saved-up throughout the year: sweaters, blankets, dishes, toysyou name it. And while it felt great to de-clutter the house (esp. in time for Christmas which was always crowded and busy), it felt even better to help those who couldnt afford to shop in full-price retail stores.
Feel the deeper meaning of the holidays: give thanks and receive joy by helping those less fortunate. What a wonderful tradition!
11/27/11
KAREN
Sleep with Love!
Do you remember listening to the sounds of nature come alive at night when you were a child? It was a wonder to me back then how active the great outdoors were while I slept.
Read all you want about the universe and its infinite mysteries during the day, but at night reduce your electrical force by quieting your mind. Listen to nature with joy! Its rhythm and song is a lullaby embracing you to sleep with love!
12/4/11
DEBRA
This is Key!
Social events were a breeze for me as an adult, because as a child I watched how my mother genuinely enjoyed people by relating to them. How did she do it? She asked others what they thought and why, and then sat with their valued opinions before commenting back. It was wonderful! Everyone noticed that she took their opinions to heart, which secured her in their hearts.
Comfort is what we crave in all situations. This is key!
12/11/11
OLGA
It Was a Good Idea!
If you choose what you want, others cant control you. If you dont, they can. Thats why I thought it was a grand idea when I was a young mother to set down rules around raising my kids. While others offered their opinions over and over about feeding, napping, discipline, etc., I found they wouldnt stop until I spoke up: Well, its good youve had your children to raise. Now I have mine!
Over and over people looked at me like I was odd, or had missed out on social niceties when I was raised. But from this side [the afterlife] I can assure you that no amount of manners would have gotten those well-meaning people to leave me be.
I like that I learned to stick up for myself. It freed me up to enjoy those who really just wanted to be like me: Happy!
12/18/11
ANTOINE
Sometimes Gifts are Just an Excuse!
When I was small we gave into our desires to give hints about what we got each other for Christmas. For years we did this, and much to our amazement we almost never got it right.
Sure, at times wed guess a sweater, but when we saw it was a teddy bear wearing a sweater wed laugh uproariously!
Sometimes gifts are just an excuse to have more family fun. So if your family feels commercialism has taken over your holidays, turn things around in a way that brings joy and laughter. Thats the real gift!
12/25/11
Afterlife Wisdom
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